Perhaps he really does have to work late, or sleep all day, or the strange girl in his bedroom truly is his sister, or the new female friend he just met is really 'just' a friend but here are some sure signals to find a cheating significant other. Everyone in the world thinks everyone is cheating.
Ask yourself before you put yourself through all this stuff. Does he really love you and if the answer is yes, then he is not cheating and all these signs are from typical lying fools and you should spend your day thinking of all the positives things he does for you and how much he loves you.
Because not everyone cheats.
1. Pay attention to a change in his normal routine. Is he, for instance, coming home from work later than usual on some nights? Sometimes these small changes to a person's routine mean nothing more than life has given them a reason to be unavailable, but they are still something that you want to be aware of.
2. Does he allow you to touch, or look through their phone, emails, etc? If your bf/gf is hiding their phone from you, or deleting all their messages before letting you have it, then there is probably something they don't want you to see.
3. Notice if he leaves the room to take calls. If you ask who called/texted him, does he always tell you "It's nobody?" These are also important signals, which like number 2, show that your fiance, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. has something to hide.
4. Has he seemed to become moody all of a sudden, and eager to start fights? Sometimes, a cheating lover will displace his shame, anger, and guilt onto you by starting a fight, which can then be blamed on you. In short, he needs a place to throw off their negative feelings.
5. Has your bf stopped talking to you? Did your significant other always have things to say, and has suddenly become very distant? Your relationship may be losing intimacy because your lover has started a new one with someone else.
6. Notice if a bf is constantly putting someone else down. He may be saying awful things about that person, but pay attention to the fact that he is still talking about them 24/7. He i trying to fool you into believing that the person is undesirable, thus throwing the suspicion off of them.
7. Pay attention to changing interests, including music, political views, social issues, favorite books, or movies, etc. When someone spends enough time with someone else, they begin to adopt their views, or at least understand them. If your boyfriend is interested in things that he hated before, perhaps he is being influenced by someone else more than usual.
8. Have his friends begun to act oddly around you? When you casually talk to his friends, do they seem anxious, nervous, or eager to leave? They probably know something you don't know.
9. Does he smell different when he comes near you? Everyone knows this one is very cliche, but it's also true. If he's coming around smelling like a perfume that you don't wear, then he's been too close with someone who wears it.
10. Does he seem to be very angry when you come over unannounced, or only text you when they are at home, never calling you? These are also signs of a between-the-sheets betrayal. For some reason, he doesn't want you at his home at certain times, and he doesn't seem to want to call you while he's at home. Suspicious, eh?
11. Catch him in a lie. Casually ask a bf where he was such and such day, and let him answer. Remember his answer, and ask again a few days later. If he is lying constantly, then he will have a hard time keeping up. He may start to get angry at these simple questions, another big hint.
12. Watch for unexplained bills, receipts for meals, etc. bought for two people. If you keep finding receipts from McDonalds with 2 different meals on it, or 2 sodas in the cupholders, or a bill for a bracelet you didn't get, then watch out.
13. Pay attention to whether he has to "clean up" before letting you into his house, room, or car. If an earring is lying in the passenger side of his car, or a condom is behind their bed, extra time will probably be taken to dispose of those items.
14. Does he have other email accounts, or other online accounts? Or begin to, out of nowhere, change his passwords to keep you out of their accounts? Normally, if he didn't give you their password to start with, this is no problem. But if he has suddenly changed it to protect messages he has written, or chats he has had, you should be aware.
15. And lastly, notice whether he begins to buy you gifts out of nowhere, or he starts casually mentioning an end to your relationship. Questions such as, "What would you do if we broke up," are key hints. Men and women, both, become guilty. This guilt can easily be forgotten with an action/item for the other person, that makes the cheater seem selfless.
16. Watch his emotions he will sometimes show the guilt in his face expression what he get home or he will come home late and try to say he is "working" long hours.
Tips:
- Always fall for your type, meaning falling for someone who understands you better, who's got the same interest and whom you share values with is best than to fall for someone you hardly understand. Relationships is about sharing, and understanding one another in all ways.
- Go with your gut. Without even realizing it, your brain will pick up on some of these subtle changes in your bf/gf, and to keep you from being emotionally harmed, it will begin to rationalize them. If all the signs are there, don't let yourself be fooled.
- Lastly, finding a cheater for what they really are is never a happy experience. It hurts to have been lied to, and takes a chunk out of your self-confidence. Take heart in the fact that women and men, alike, have had to deal with this since the dawn of time. It is better, however, to find out now and cut ties with the cheater rather than to remain faithful to someone who cannot return the favor.
- Pay attention to the influences in your mate's life. Do their sisters, brothers, parents, etc. cheat, or have cheated? This is definitely not a solid lead to a cheater, but even so, this type of behavior influences peoples' beliefs.
- First off, know that these tips individually are not always a sign of doom. Sometimes a guy just leaves his phone off and doesn't text back, or a girl is with her friends; it happens. However, if you have a reason to doubt the other person, and more than one of these signs is showing up, then maybe more investigative work is in order.
- Try to be with someone with whom you are the age, and have somewhat the same personality type. I'm not saying that opposites don't attract, but it is definitely easier to please one another when you like the same things.
- Be discreet when trying to catch a cheater. If you let them know you're onto them, they'll hide the situation completely. Your best bet is to catch them slipping up.
- Sometimes, cheaters are just cheaters. People can be very self-absorbed with a lack of concern for others, and with no desire to change themselves. Try to keep these kinds of people out of your life.
- Also, just know the person. Know their personality, and how they acted before they started dating you. Were they flirtatious before you? Have they cheated before? How many people have they dated or slept with? Some people would never cheat, and others hardly notice they're doing it. It helps to know what kind of person your significant other is.
- If he/she is cheating, throw them out of your life. Enjoy your life and be glad that you found out.
- Have your friends help you scope out the situation. If you feel that there is a difference in your significant other, then maybe your friends have noticed it too, and can help you find out why. Especially if they have classes with him; they can watch for sketchy behavior.
- Your man looking at other women could also be a sign that he's cheating on you.
- Pay attention to the time he comes home...Test him by watching where he comes inside from what place...If u didnt c him come inside and he shows up...He was already inside testing you...
WARNING:
- A liar can convince you to stop trusting your gut when you bring things up. A liar can convince you that you're just being paranoid and that these suspicions are all normal. Just keep that in mind before you ask why your partner has to run away for a phone call.
- If your partner is cheating, chances are they're not opposed to lying as well. If you ask them about signs you've seen, and those signs stop showing up, your partner is likely covering up everything you've noticed before.
Shahlohm..
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