This article was written by Bob and Debby Gass, and it really blessed me, especially today, after experiencing a very painful storm in my life.
SAY 'NO!'
by Bob & Debby Gass
'...Just say a simple...no...' James 5:12 NLT
When you don't learn to say no, you end up disliking yourself, as well as the people you are trying to please. In some cases we have difficulty saying it because we're afraid people won't like us. In other cases we believe that to be 'a good Christian' we must always say yes.
Jesus said, '...Let...your no be [a simple] no, so that you may not sin...' (James 5:12 AMP). Only when you have the courage to say no will you mature, be able to address your own unmet needs, and start respecting yourself. And in time, others will too.
So do these three things:
(1) Think before you respond. If you need to, say, 'Can I get back to you?' Don't make commitments without consulting God, your calendar, and your family. 'If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you...' (James 1:5 NLT).
((Many women caught up in unhealthy relationship with wrong men. They have been through breakups, on and off relationship with an abusive or drunk boyfriend and they just can't say NO to them. Well ladies, just say NO if they want to crawl back into your life. GOD already provides you the best man, someone He created from the beginning just for you. Just say NO, and wait for the LORD! ^^ <= my opinion!)) ;)
(2) When your plate's full, say so. Responding to so-called emergencies caused by somebody else's poor planning and sloppy habits won't do either of you any good. Limit what you say yes to, then stick with it. Don't take on more because you feel pressured, guilty or indispensable You'll discover that you're only indispensable until you say NO - or DIE!
(3) Go with your gifts. God has given each of us unique talents. If you have to choose between singing in the choir or sitting on the finance committee, go where your talents will be best utilized. Is this always easy? No, but unless you learn to do it you'll end up investing too much time and energy in what seems urgent, and neglect what's important.
(SoulFood: 2 Chronicle 25-28, Luke 20:41-47, Psalm 78:1-8, Pr 20:7-10).
Learn to say NO to certain things or people is necessary. We cannot keep saying YES to bad things or people especially when it comes to important things in life. We cannot just follow our heart or feelings or judgments without consulting it first to the LORD. Take time to pray and ask the LORD to lead you with His Holy Spirit. He will tell you what to do. And saying NO to bad things or people will be a proof that you obey the LORD more than your own feelings. :)
Just say 'NO'! ^^
'...Just say a simple...no...' James 5:12 NLT
When you don't learn to say no, you end up disliking yourself, as well as the people you are trying to please. In some cases we have difficulty saying it because we're afraid people won't like us. In other cases we believe that to be 'a good Christian' we must always say yes.
Jesus said, '...Let...your no be [a simple] no, so that you may not sin...' (James 5:12 AMP). Only when you have the courage to say no will you mature, be able to address your own unmet needs, and start respecting yourself. And in time, others will too.
So do these three things:
(1) Think before you respond. If you need to, say, 'Can I get back to you?' Don't make commitments without consulting God, your calendar, and your family. 'If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you...' (James 1:5 NLT).
((Many women caught up in unhealthy relationship with wrong men. They have been through breakups, on and off relationship with an abusive or drunk boyfriend and they just can't say NO to them. Well ladies, just say NO if they want to crawl back into your life. GOD already provides you the best man, someone He created from the beginning just for you. Just say NO, and wait for the LORD! ^^ <= my opinion!)) ;)
(2) When your plate's full, say so. Responding to so-called emergencies caused by somebody else's poor planning and sloppy habits won't do either of you any good. Limit what you say yes to, then stick with it. Don't take on more because you feel pressured, guilty or indispensable You'll discover that you're only indispensable until you say NO - or DIE!
(3) Go with your gifts. God has given each of us unique talents. If you have to choose between singing in the choir or sitting on the finance committee, go where your talents will be best utilized. Is this always easy? No, but unless you learn to do it you'll end up investing too much time and energy in what seems urgent, and neglect what's important.
(SoulFood: 2 Chronicle 25-28, Luke 20:41-47, Psalm 78:1-8, Pr 20:7-10).
Learn to say NO to certain things or people is necessary. We cannot keep saying YES to bad things or people especially when it comes to important things in life. We cannot just follow our heart or feelings or judgments without consulting it first to the LORD. Take time to pray and ask the LORD to lead you with His Holy Spirit. He will tell you what to do. And saying NO to bad things or people will be a proof that you obey the LORD more than your own feelings. :)
Just say 'NO'! ^^
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